Sounds so much simpler in theory than in reality, of course. Aya Tsintziras Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor.
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When you’re single and actively dating, you may hate it with all your being but you also stay optimistic. When you stop dating altogether, though, you can become harsh and bitter faster than you can get addicted to the latest Netflix show. We think our hiatus will last a few weeks to a month, tops, and then it’s six months later and we’re still seriously single. That’s totally fair, but eventually your dating break is going to make you completely afraid of committing to someone, and that’s only going to make things more difficult. If you never make the effort to date, then you’re probably not going to meet any new people – unless you’re starring in a romantic comedy.
If our big quest is to ultimately meet the right person, taking such an extended break is definitely not the way to get there. Your nights will all blur into one another and soon you’ll be in a total rut, wondering why you never have any fun anymore. You’re going to end up telling your friends how amazing it is to never date and soon your enthusiasm is going to turn to whining and complaining.
Whatever the case, if you find yourself cancelling dates and accidentally ghosting on perfectly good men because you can’t focus on dating, then it’s fine to take a step away from the swiping and meeting of dating. And you don’t want your personal happiness to always play second fiddle to your professional success. And after a slew of bad first dates, it can be very easy to be discouraged.
Here are a couple of examples and how it turned out for me: Repeating The Same Relationship: In my early 20s, I never put men first in my life. It wasn’t that I wanted him back—I cheated on him for a reason.
Relationships weren’t a big deal to me but I always had someone in my life. I had been dating this guy for almost two years when he found out that I had been cheating on him. It was excruciating to know that I was the reason behind someone feeling that much pain. I went out with a few people but I told them up front that I absolutely wasn’t looking for anything serious.
You want to make sure you're not still in post-breakup mode.
You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.