Any time he or she makes the effort to be transparent with you, make sure you convey how much you appreciate it.
It’s not realistic or fair to expect anyone to immediately move from closed to totally open.
1) Over-Pleasing When you’re getting to know a new guy, it’s natural to want him to feel good, to do things to make him like you and want to be close to you…BUT this can be a big MISTAKE.
Not only does over-pleasing not allow him the space to come towards you, it can cause him to have icky feeling inside that makes him think, “This person wants or needs me too much.” If you are trying to make him interested in you by complimenting him, doing nice things for him, and being available to him at anytime he shows interest…STOP trying so hard.
Think of it more as the 10 things that will bring us closer together…by you not doing them.1.“Closed Dating” is a code that consists of a series of letters and/or numbers applied by manufacturers to identify the date and time of production. Except for infant formula, product dating is not required by Federal regulations.For meat, poultry, and egg products under the jurisdiction of the Food Safety and Inspection Service (FSIS), dates may be voluntarily applied provided they are labeled in a manner that is truthful and not misleading and in compliance with FSIS regulations.So what happens when your friend or love isn’t open and you’re having trouble coaxing the words out? It will get you nowhere to demand, plead, or threaten. Getting someone to open up has everything to do with that person feeling safe and secure. Understand that some closed-off people have hidden wounds. Each person falls somewhere on the continuum of extrovert and introvert, guarded and transparent. It can be frustrating when someone you love refuses to open up to you. Have you experienced any of these things in your dating life? – You go on 2 or 3 great dates and get close, then you have what feels like a “strange” talk and he stops calling.