The rate of divorce in America remains high, leaving many adult men and women alone, available and wondering how to maneuver on the playing field. D., offers advice gleaned from his own research and that of other experts to help you get back into dating mode.After years of being in a relationship, putting yourself back in the singles market can be a daunting endeavor. After 19 years of waking up next to the same person, Yolanda*, a marketing consultant, suddenly found herself greeting mornings alone.Recently divorced, she was overwhelmed by the mere thought of dating again.Yolanda's self-esteem was so damaged by her tumultuous breakup that she worried about her ability to start a new relationship, not to mention her rusty dating skills. Whether you've already started dating after divorce, or you're about to take the plunge, chances are good you're going to be tempted to give in to three behaviors that will sabotage either your ability to move on from your marriage, or seriously reduce the chance you'll find a wonderful new man.
Instead, it seems that the older we get, the less we date.Here are three post-divorce dating dangers and how you can avoid them:1. Trusting a new man once you've been hurt by your ex-husband is difficult.Yet, if you don't get rid of this distrust toward men it will destroy your chance of finding someone new. to your female friends for company and support, but stay clear of "male bashing." Keep the conversations positive. Trying one new thing per month will give you confidence in yourself and you never know who you might meet. It is a short-lived ego boost for the hunted, but ultimately not attractive (you're too easy to get). A hunter is someone that follows or pursues someone else. First, to practice dating, getting ready when it will really matters; second, get comfortable around romantic prospects again — it's like working out, you have to get back into "dating shape"; third, it builds your self-confidence, improving your appeal!"You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.