In fact, for some it may be a proper complement that only deepens meaning after marriage. A common passage used against touch in courtship is 1 Corinthians 7:1-2. “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: [It is] good for a man not to touch a woman.
This can be problematic because when a couple makes a declaration like that, they will likely quit communicating about it. It has plenty to say about marriage, immorality, sexual sin, and purity; but it doesn’t really go into details about physical touch in courtship. Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” in this passage means something more than holding hands or placing your arm around her shoulder.
Although the hand holding experience I described above made me feel weird, if I’m into someone I have no problem with some physical contact on the first date. 1) Hugging – Everyone is different, however I happen to be a hugger.
It all just comes down to how comfortable I feel with the person and what kind of connection we have. If I meet someone for the first time and we have developed a connection and/or I’m not instantly turned off upon meeting them, I love to go in for a quick friendly hug.
when i see some iffy-ness when i meet her up, I just say "hey give me a hug so we can get that out the way"... then do the stupid palm reading trick, if she says "you know how to read palms ?
" or whatever, I just "no, I just wanted to check out and hold your hands, you okay with that?
After a really nice dinner at a local restaurant, he grabbed my hand while walking out onto the street. Given that I was still trying to figure out whether we had a romantic connection, it seemed like too much contact, too soon.
I thought our Dad’s would make the decision for us, but that’s not what happened. While I’m confident the motives are right, many people have developed the idea that if a couple has any physical touch in courtship they are giving in to fleshly desires, and sinning. When that couple gets married, touch no longer fills the void and something else becomes the obsession, maybe even leaving touch out altogether.
Not all dating couples use physical touch to fill an unhealthy need in their relationship.
For those dating, it can be exhilarating—actual, real-live, skin-to-skin contact with someone of the opposite sex.
And while it isn’t sexual union, it can definitely be sexy.