It’s important to let close friends and family members know about your struggles with depression.Let them know the symptoms so they’re able to help you realize when you’re becoming depressed.A challenging part of dating while depressed is a challenging part of dating in general: Putting yourself out there in ways that won’t make you want to self-immolate.For a long time, I joined Tinder and Bumble and all the sites you’re supposed to join as a hip young person, only to find that I could never bring myself to deliver on a date because I could never bring myself to actually leave my house.Some days, getting out of bed is impossible, while other days I’m reminded that I’ve got a nice life. Dating means my burden gets to become someone else’s for a little bit, and it’s hard to comprehend why anyone would want to join a depressed person on that particular ride.We will be forced to leave things early sometimes, I will cry, I will disengage, you will think it’s you, do you still want to hold hands?In addition to being more likely to reject these partners, study participants also reported feeling less romantic interest in more depressed partners for similar mood-related reasons.The experience of social rejection is likely to have a negative impact on symptoms of depression, which this study suggests is likely to result in turn in a further increased risk of rejection in future interactions.
Bolyn has been writing mental health, wedding-related and relationship focused articles since 2007. Bolyn received her master's degree in social work from New York University.
The study authors used a statistical technique called mediation analysis to determine whether that increase in the likelihood of rejection was due to changes in emotion that occurred as a result of interacting with a relatively depressed person.
Their results showed that going on a 4-minute date with a depressed person did not increase negative emotions, but did decrease positive emotions, and that this reduction in positive mood in turn led to greater chances of rejecting their depressed partners.
Depression is a debilitating mental illness that affects people socially and occupationally.
Symptoms of depression include feelings of sadness and irritability, thoughts of suicide, issues with eating and sleeping, trouble concentrating and fatigue.