You can help by knowing you didn't cause it and you can't cure it. She isn't defined by it, just like you're not defined by what car you drive, which team you support or the fact you down a pint in less than 5 seconds. "Don't you think I would've calmed down if I knew how to calm down?!
The following are ten different tips and strategies for dating and meeting people when you suffer from social anxiety.
I had a great cry this morning and feel a lot better for it. A healthy diet including lots of fresh fruits and vegetables is proven to lift our mood. All mental health conditions are totally workable, especially when we have the help and support of loved ones.
If your girl doesn't yet have a diagnosis and you're a bit concerned, consider asking her how she'd feel about seeing a GP about her symptoms. Nice ways you can help us: Cook us a decent meal, or take us for walk.
Everything can be completely good, and then the next morning she is all unhappy again, and it gets frustrating. A lot of dating and relationships is really about whether our issues work with their issues. Some people are okay being with others that have social anxiety, depression, are socially awkward, make strange demands, are insecure, jealous ect. So you have to know if you are equipped for this to go on through the duration of your relationship. When she told me that she told him all this, I was like wtf y u do dis?! OP, if there are more good times then bad than you should hold in a bit longer and keep trying to point things in the right direction.
My buddy invited us to go to his lake house over spring break, and she essentially ruined it for me because she thought I was being flirty and wanted to bang everybody elses girlfriends, when I was just having a good time (nobody else thought this). If you can't do it - that is okay, exit the relationship and go find someone you work better with. My one friend has told a guy on a first date that she takes Ritalin, an antidepressant (calls them her happy pills, srs), and sneaks her mom's xanax when she's feeling anxious. If there are more bad times than good times then I think it is time to reevaluate whether you want to continue.