Writing a dating profile is much like writing an article or a novel — if I haven't grabbed you by now, you've already swiped left and clicked to the next best thing to read.On Saturday, author and editor Dave Eggers helped San Franciscans increase their chances of a lifelong match by editing their online dating profiles at a National Independent Bookstore Day event at Books Inc. Eggers became famous with his 2000 autobiography, "A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius," and in 2013 wrote "The Circle," a dystopian novel based loosely on life at Silicon Valley tech companies like Google and Facebook.If you like low-key creative types, share what it is you make. Put forward the version of yourself that’s most attractive to the person you’re trying to see naked.Online dating is like advertising: Know your ideal audience and target them by positioning yourself to be as appealing as possible.I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.And yet another short list of things that I’m not really fond of: – Cars (can’t tell why I put this one first…) – Self-centered people (but, hey…Have you ever heard anybody saying “yes, yes, I am definitely self-centered.” So this one doesn’t really count!!
"Recognize when you're repeating something that you've heard," said Dan, one of the attendees, and then try to eliminate it from your profile. It needs to be the "hook." The "about" section is where you can sound most generic, Eggers told Dan, so make sure you hook people in like you would in a book.
That is why in cities across America, photographers on Craigslist are marketing their ability to craft the perfect online dating profile picture.
Rhe De Ville, a New York City-based actress and photographer, said she has noticed an uptick in people looking for professional profile photos over the last three years.
So select photos that look good, but could also in some universe be reasonably understood to be you.
Relatedly: Select photos where you can actually see what you look like.