I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.But perhaps that's a huge problem when it comes to happiness and satisfaction. Are you a baby-lover too — and do you think it's time for you to stop robbing the cradle?
“I don't think it's your writing he's interested in,” she said.
But there are reasons men should consider older women as a potential marriage partner.
I will admit I'm biased: My wife is five years older than I am and we've been contentedly married for almost 40 years now. Alfred Kinsey's classic work on sexuality concluded that men's sexual hormones peak at 18, women's in their early 30s.
It requires great maturity and equanimity to consistently set limits but not excessive ones, remain calm, and collaboratively solve problems with your child.
A 30-something is more likely to have that maturity than is a 20-something. As mentioned, older people have had more time to advance in their career.