There are some surprising (and maybe not so surprising) truths and obstacles I've had to struggle with over the past four years of very actively dating a simultaneous single mom, divorcee and Millennial. Some of my other Millennial friends are DFW and a last minute hangout sesh is all gravy, but 95 percent of the time, I need to make plans in advance.My mom days are my mom days, and I usually fill out my non-mom days with social activities, hitting a Soul Cycle class and sometimes getting about 30-minutes of downtime.It's about being insecure, feeling sexy, laughing, doing fun random things and being heartbroken all at the same time.But, dating as a single mom (I became a mom at 20 and a single one at 24.) comes with a unique set of hurdles.I think it really just comes down to asking yourself if you're ready to become a father and is the woman you're interested worth keeping? After my first marriage ended, I was frankly terrified at the prospect of dating again.
"She's just a friend."Tears followed some time later, when the father asked his sons for "permission" to allow Joanne move in with him. C., author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. It's a time of exploration, casual sex, exciting dates and awkward hookups.It's about not knowing what to text him back, and screenshotting your friends his message so they can weigh in on what to respond back.I was a mom of two, in my 30s, and stuck in the suburbs.How would I ever find an eligible guy to have coffee with — much less date or possibly marry?Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.