And, given that boomer divorce rates are on the rise, increasing numbers of parents are likely to experience disapproval from their adult kids when Cupid’s arrows land.
“Children of all ages feel betrayed and abandoned when their parents divorce because their cozy nest is disrupted,” Lieberman says.
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“This even upsets kids who are already out of the nest.
The message their parents are sending is that it is more important for them to have a life of their choosing than to remain in their prior, primary role of mom or dad.” The result: strained relations, uncomfortable moments for everyone and, for you, the feeling that your children may not have your best interests at heart.
Barbara Brooks expected her adult kids, Amy and Bryan (names have been changed), to be happy for her.
After all, they were the ones who had fixed her up with Gerald, a fellow divorcé and a friend’s uncle, because they didn’t want her to be lonely.
There are plenty of people who like children and who want to date someone with children.You are a vibrant, energetically alive adult who deserves to have a social life.To help make the transition from mommy or daddy to date, lover, boyfriend or girlfriend, stop thinking of yourself as just a parent, and start thinking of yourself as an attractive, devastatingly sexy single.A common underlying thought process during this time is what happens if my children grow fond of this person and we end up breaking up?Will I be putting them through another “divorce” of sorts and damage them further? Integration Personally, I come from the position that our children need to be, at least on some level, a part of the dating process we are entering into.Whether we want to admit it or not, children are going to experience instability as their parents go in search of romantic partners.