It’s just that here, because it’s a small country, any upset in the balance of Nature becomes a disaster very quickly. Somehow, the infrastructure hasn’t collapsed yet, but I am guessing this is only because there are enough Russians and others from former Soviet countries here who do have some idea of a civil society, and why it’s not a good idea to let the water and sewage system go too far into disrepair.
What I am trying to say is that Israel is not just not a western society. Most of the problems from the government down to the treatment of workers are because there is no such thing here as a social contract, neither explicit nor implied. Were it not for them, I am pretty sure this would be an Arab country.
I should probably have known what was wrong with this place from the fact that people think Russians and Ukrainians are crazy.
Indeed many of them cope with life here in ways that are very understandable, but sometimes very harmful or at least counterproductive. In this context, I would like to inform any civil women out there who are single and coming to this hell hole to turn back now unless they are willing to be callous enough to take the following advice… In the category of things I wish I knew 10 years ago, I have been informed that one is not actually in a relationship with an Israeli man until he has taken her to a romantic “tsimmer” and introduced you to his friends/family as his girlfriend.
They seemed to think that the best way to get back at me was to call me a lonely, man-hating lesbian. Then there were the men that proved this comment true and saw the video as an opportunity to begin flirting. The tips were obviously targeted to the more secular audience, but that did not stop some religious people from jumping into the conversation: 5.
I also got a number of private messages legitimately pointing out that I might have been dating the wrong type of people. Then there were the more serious comments about racism, which I took very seriously.
For instance, I had a very serious boyfriend in college in the US and our parents (both his parents and mine) made us sleep on opposite sides of the house. Then of course there were the Israeli men who were very defensive.
This country is, socially, a feminist experiment gone terribly wrong, and exacerbated by ethnic conflicts that impose limitations and illusions that are unbreakable without the individuals moving to different countries.
There is a reason why Israelis who move away from here because they couldn’t live with the way things are here, don’t even want to socialize with other Israelis abroad.
It wasn’t difficult because Israeli men are usually straightforward and spontaneous.
This seemed to be one of the best features of my life in Tel Aviv.