One thing doesn’t change, older men’s—and women’s—ability to enjoy erotic pleasure. It becomes less like the Fourth of July, and more like Thanksgiving. A medically problematic lifestyle, for example, smoking, typically accelerates the changes, and a healthy lifestyle may postpone them, but even men in robust health with exemplary lifestyles experience age-related sexual changes. After 45 and certainly by 50, erections rise more slowly and become less firm and reliable.However, even without exploding fireworks, the erotic flames can still burn hot and bright—if older men adjust to the changes aging brings, and if women involved with older men understand what’s happening to their lovers. Depending on the man, the changes may develop gradually or surprisingly suddenly, like within six months. Sexual fantasies are no longer enough to raise one.
It’s disconcerting to lose firmness and suffer wilting from minor distractions—a phone ringing—but these change are .“There is, in fact, very little data on the sexual interests and experiences of older people,” Friedan says.People want to believe that seniors are asexual beings, but seniors desire — even need — romantic relationships, just as we do.Biological, demographic and psychological factors can all make it challenging for seniors to form romantic relationships: In her groundbreaking book, author Friedman explains that many of the difficulties that seniors face when approaching love are based on expectations that intimacy and love ought to be the same as it was during middle-age.Instead, she explains, older people must define new modes of intimacy and sexuality that are not based on the conceptions that apply to younger adults: “Before it’s too late…While the frequency or ability to perform sexually will generally decline modestly as seniors experience the normal physiological changes that accompany aging, reports show that the majority of men and women between the ages of 50 and 80 are still enthusiastic about sex and intimacy.