I can certainly relate to several of the feelings you have right now with this girl you are thinking about.
Feeling nervous, uncertain of yourself, uncertain of her, struggling to trust in God's provision and timing — all these things are common to most Christian men looking for a spouse.
While this article provides individual tips, overcoming social anxiety itself is the only true way to ensure you can meet your romantic partners.
Our free anxiety test can score the severity of your symptoms and provide you with solutions to your dating anxiety. Keep in mind when you're reading these that some of them do involve being brave and trying to challenge your fears.
For some people, that can be hard – indeed, if overcoming your social anxiety was easy, you'd be doing it already.
It's important to remember that the only true way to stop social anxiety is to cure it altogether. But there are smaller, more interesting strategies that can help you with some of your social anxiety issues and make sure that it doesn't interfere with your dating.
Anyway, there's a new girl at my workplace, and I sense I may have feelings for her. She and I have only hung out once when I invited her to come with me to a NHL hockey game. I even tried deleting her number and a couple pics I have of her on my phone (taken at the game). When I'm around her, I'm nervous, and by nervous, I mean I start shaking and my heart beats really hard.
Second-guessing everything I say, trying not to fidget, and working on overdrive to figure you out. Here's a peek at my first date fears and hang-ups and what you can do to put me at ease. I often find myself in the following situation: I'm sitting across from a guy, having a great time, enjoying the company. Except, I can't stop wondering whether he thinks I'm a potential girlfriend or just a girl friend. Regardless, when a guy won't look at me straight on, I feel like my eyes are emitting death-rays. I once went out on a first date with a man who showed up with his shirt on inside-out. After this occurred a third time, I finally asked him (completely sincerely) whether this was a fashion statement (after all, I kid you not, he did work in fashion). That being said, I would not recommend skipping the fly check before you go out. More important than what you say is the meta-data I'm filtering while we're out. I'm looking for signs that the person you are projecting is The Real You. If you're giving me the song-and-dance, I'm going to totally be on to you. Do you have any idea how much thought and deliberation I've put into my half of the check dance? Then, when I suggest that we get the bill, you can just say, all suave-like, "It's already taken care of." Wow. Do us both a favor and give me an opening I can work with. On the other hand, if you're really excited about me, just tell me.
And, of course, after our first date, I'm going back to my friends to dish over every detail, especially if I really like you. Now that we've graduated from playschool (ahem, college), having friends of the opposite sex is par for the course. A cool superpower, but not exactly what I had in mind when I was putting on the mascara. I've been out so many times with men who sit back, totally aloof, while I smile and nod and try my best to carry on a conversation with someone who might as well be a rock (and not the cuddly "pet" kind, either). I once went out with a man who informed me that he takes girls he's only marginally interested in to Dippin' Dots (no, we were not consuming the "Ice Cream of the Future" at the time). For example, do your stories feel like they're way too practiced, i.e. When I was younger, I always insisted on splitting the bill 50/50. No matter what your guy friends tell you, acting all nonchalant at the end of a date is not going to help you. She could say flat-out that she's not that into you.
Meeting other people is, of course, very difficult when you're anxious in social situations.
The following are ten different tips and strategies for dating and meeting people when you suffer from social anxiety.